Joel has been in medical school now for a 1-1/2 months. How is it going? To put it bluntly, he considers this to be his primary home...

and this his secondary home...

I happen to reside primarily in the "secondary" home.
Actually, I have a very plush life as the wife of the medical student - especially since I'm not working. I can keep busy during the day running errands, keeping up with housework, cooking, and working on my own projects without any disruptions. Then, when Joel eventually finds his way home in the late hours, I get to hear all about the most amazing and interesting things he learned or did that day. I totally try to be a medical student right along with him when I help him study at night. It's so great to learn right along and not have any of the actual pressure and stress sitting on my shoulders.
That being said, I have had many opportunities to practice being the calming force, de-stresser, and cheerleader in our household. It's true what they say about medical school - it's hard. Very hard. Very demanding. Very much meant only for top-quality, driven, highly intelligent humans. I'm very lucky to have married such a person, and I consider my job in all this is to help keep him sane.
Overall, I think we mentally prepared ourselves well for this venture. It's been exciting, we've learned tons, and Joel is honestly happy and enjoying himself. I've got to share one med school experience that I found particularly hilarious.
A couple weeks ago, the 1st year med students were scheduled to participate in their first preceptorship, which sent them out into the surrounding hospitals to shadow practicing physicians. Joel was sent to work with a family practice doctor. He was required to wear his white coat and bring along his stethoscope, which was brand new/never used/straight out of the package. Right before he left he looked in the mirror, dressed in his suit, tie, and "doctor gear", and told me he felt like a little kid playing dress-up! He was just there to shadow, for goodness sake!
He got to the clinic and was introduced to Dr. X (for anonymity's sake.) Right off the bat the Doctor immediately said, "put that stethoscope around your neck like a real doctor, go on into the exam room, find out what the chief complaint is, take the patient's history, listen to their heart/lungs, take a look in their ears, and come back out and tell me about it."
So much for merely "shadowing the Doctor!" Joel, completely taken aback, blinked and said, "we haven't learned how to do all of that yet." Dr. X chuckled and replied, "Well, it can't be any worse than my first time in the exam room. I was listening to the patients' lungs and didn't realize that my stethoscope was on the pediatric side so I thought every single patient was walking around without a heartbeat!"
Well, Joel trucked on in to the exam room, introduced himself as a Dr. X's medical student, found out the reason for the visit, took the patient's history, listened to the heart and lungs, (even though he wasn't so sure what he was listening for!!!), and "sort of" examined their ears. You know when you're in the exam room and your Doctor puts the little plastic sanitary cap on the otoscope? Well, it must be harder than it looks to attach the little sucker because Joel couldn't get it to stay on! He had to fumble with his fingers and sort of hold it in place while he examined each patient. Ha ha...
Well, he stumbled through and had lots of funny experiences with individual patients. At the end of the day it turned out to be a very humbling, humorous, and great learning experience! I guess you have to start from somewhere! While he finds it to be somewhat embarrassing, I know that 25 years down the road he will look back on this unplanned "first time clinical experience" and giggle about his naivety.
I'm looking forward to him coming home and sharing great stories like this throughout the rest of his career! If nothing else, at least I know that being the wife of a medical student/doctor is bound to be entertaining!